What makes someone effective, in personal ways?
Obviously, there are a few things to unpack around such a question. What, in fact, are we really talking about?
In general, we occasionally recognize someone who is just plain effective—at getting things done, at what they do, at who they are. We might say, they have a way about them. They move things forward, as a function of their resources (personality, organization, inter-personal style, instinct, etc.). The net result often is that we feel drawn to them—their authenticity, their integrity, their winsomeness, whatever it is about them that we appreciate.
One of the things that I've been wondering about is, how much of this effectiveness is secured or leveraged by the person's sense of the parts of themselves that make them ineffective? Is it all just pure instinctualness? Or, is it also a function of what they have learned...about themselves, that frees up more of who they are naturally? People who have healthy awareness of these kinds of things seem, at least in part, more effective because they don't create as many distractions for themselves (and others), as a function of their self-knowledge, self-regulation, self-development.
